15 20 dating
George Clooney and his new wife, Amal Alamuddin, are the talk of the town.
But, it's not all good things, as there's also talk about their “bizarre” age gap: him 53, her 36.
Think of conversation as a tennis match in which the players lob the ball back and forth. They ask personal or sensitive questions that put the other person on the defensive. If feeling inhibited is a problem for some people, others go to the opposite extreme: they use a date as an opportunity to purge and vent.
Should the relationship evolve, there will be plenty of time to get into weighty topics. When a person reveals too much too soon, it can give a false sense of intimacy.
I have nothing against guys my age; I have tried dating them, but I have constantly come across the following:– They're not ambitious enough, or they don't have a go-getter attitude.– They're not financially stable.– They still want to date around.– They have had baby mama or ex-wife drama.– They don't have their sh*t together.
I'm not saying every guy in my age group is like this, but overall, my personal experience hasn't been fulfilling for me.
Even though this guy and I were 25 years apart, we had a lot in common. I didn't know then that our age gap would define the relationship. I got that; but even though I knew there was no future, I didn’t cut it off completely. After it ended, he talked to a lot of people about our relationship -- and what happened through the grapevine was unexpected. Women judged me as having an ulterior, economic motive: “She just dated him for his money,” or “She thought she could get ahead.” In our society people are so quick to judge a young, naïve woman -- never the older man who perhaps should’ve known better too.
We worked in the same profession, had similar interests, and shared common philosophical views. So what if he was wrinkly, in all the places you might expect? There was zero jealousy on both sides, and I never saw him check out another woman -- due to him being satisfied, of course, but also him being well-seasoned in how to respect the opposite sex. Another lesson in dating: a fling with someone in your professional/personal circle is more often than not bad news. I have a friend who’s been married to someone for more than a decade who is 20 years older than her.
In their defense, I hardly grew up dating or crushing on men close to my age group.But the ability to speak is only one part of the equation—and not the most important part. The best communication occurs with an even and equal exchange between two people. Getting to know someone new is like peeling an onion one thin layer at the time. But some people, overeager to get into deep and meaningful conversation, go too far too fast. but if it was over 30, I'd be a little skeptical." - Lauren M. Of course, women want to be with a guy who knows how to move in the bedroom and isn’t just going to jackhammer and grunt for four and a half minutes. Every man has a past and you can’t blame them for wanting to ‘sew their wild oats’ as long as they’re not still trying to sew them with other women while they're with you.” - Kelly P. "I think if a guy is 25-30 years old, 15-20 women is the top of the ceiling.“Guys are never honest and I feel like my number is high, so I don’t feel the need to know. “The number doesn’t really matter much to me, so long as mine isn't higher. But I know, personally, it makes me uncomfortable to think about my partner or boyfriend having been with tons and tons of girls.” - Rebecca D. Realistically, a man or woman isn’t getting checked for STDs or using a condom every time they have sex with every new sexual partner. “I have a ‘don’t ask, don’t tell policy.’ I have no desire to know how many partners they’ve had.” - Vanessa P. But I had a guy reveal he had sex with 72 people before me, which I didn’t learn until later... I'd want my partner to have been in some serious relationships before me—not cycling through women constantly." - Sierra D.